are hard work. They can be stressful.
They also have the potential
to bring us deep joy and satisfaction.
But getting to that part is
often a journey through hardship
and stress. Who has not been
knocked off balance by relational
struggles? Who has not been
surprised by the amount of pain
that can come from relational
book is about overcoming relational
stress—surviving and thriving.
As I read the manuscript, it
occurred to me that in relationships,
we often feel pounced upon in
unsuspecting moments. These
assaults can weigh heavily and
destabilize us. Although we
long for deliverance from the
pain, our spirit has become
vulnerable to the loss of hope.
Even if we are to manage through
the relational difficulties,
many of us would like to register
a complaint to God about the
madness of relationships.
book is a testament to the fact
that it is possible to be resilient
and thrive in our relationships.
And this book will help you
discover how. Gerry contends
that all relationships get stuck
in crazy cycles at times, and
he uses three common stress
roles to illustrate this: the
rescuer, the victim, and the
persecutor. The second and third
sections of the book—the
remedy—are where Gerry’s
genius shines brightest. It
is filled with thoughtful and
is a good storyteller. By weaving
together the voices and anecdotes
of his life with exercises,
diagrams, and principl0es, he
has created a book with something
of value for everyone—whether
in crisis or not. If you are
interested in enhancing the
strength and beauty of your
relationships, this will help.
His message is based on solid
social science research without
the technical jargon. It is
written with sincerity and simplicity.
Even the most career-driven
individuals will be passionate
about improving their personal
relationships after reading
know Gerry well. He knows what
he writes about from personal
experience. He has survived
and thrived. He has encountered
relational challenges and endured
with honor. He can even grin
as he recounts some of the trials.
also knows what he writes about
from professional experience.
He has walked many other people
through their relational stressors,
helping them come out the other
side, not only as survivors,
but also as thrivers. No wonder
so many people invite Gerry
into their lives. He can help
you as well as you read this
commend both the author and
the book to you, knowing you
will be relationally stronger
as a result. Don’t just
read the book, though. Take
the questions seriously; reflect
and put into action the useful
tips and suggestions. If you
do, you will be better equipped
to encounter the relational
challenges life throws at you.
Your most important relationships
are worth the investment. Not
only will you survive, you will
Friend and Colleague